I didn’t start this website because I’m perfect and know all there is to know about relating to a Words of Affirmation (WoA) significant other. In fact, I started it because when I screwed up my relationship by not knowing how to speak WoA, I googled it and came up with very little to help. I wanted to provide a grouping of resources for others going through the same. I also wanted to provide a forum for community (in the comments) for people to share tips, tricks, and resources I missed during my search. But what happens when the guy who writes the blog screws up this whole WoA thing? Hopefully you have ideas and can share them in the comments today.
Sometimes I can’t even pinpoint exactly what it is I said or didn’t say but it becomes clear that I have misstepped. Today is one of those days. I really can’t tell you exactly what it was (maybe a collection of a few things) but it was made clear that repairs needed to be made. I’d provide specifics if I had them (but like I said, I really have no idea).
All I’ve got in the arsenal is to sincerely apologize:
“I’m sorry for …………….”
and ask for forgiveness:
“Will you forgive me for …………..?”
I have found, however, that with a WoA spouse, the more verbose the apology portion the better.
Since in this case I don’t know exactly what I said or didn’t say, I covered a myriad of possibilities with verbose apologetic language.
We opted to also table further discussion until later when cooler heads will make talking easier when nobody is flooded.
What do YOU do to recover from such a thing?
Thanks to the WoA community for all the support you provide, spoken or not!