How you start a conversation with your Words of Affirmation (WoA) spouse matters!
Try a “soft start-up” and see if you have better results:
https://www.gottman.com/blog/softening-startup/
Feedback from my WoA spouse is that using this technique and keeping criticism in check are the two most important things I can do for our relationship.
Since trying to implement the things in this blog post, I have had far better success. What have you tried that is working or not working?