Here is my next installment of the John Gottman Principle #2 Fondness and Admiration Challenge! Week 2, Day 4: Thought: My spouse is my best friend. Task: What secret about you does your spouse know? Response: Well, if I told you it wouldn’t be a secret anymore, would it? I told my wife she was…
Fondness and Admiration Challenge: Week 2, Day 3
Here is my next installment of the John Gottman Principle #2 Fondness and Admiration Challenge! Week 2, Day 3: Thought: We have common goals. Task: List one such goal. Response: We’ve had many common goals in 20 yers. For this challenge, I asked what our current goals were. It was too big of a question…
Fondness and Admiration Challenge: Week 2, Day 2
Here is my next installment of the John Gottman Principle #2 Fondness and Admiration Challenge! Week 2, Day 2: Thought: We have the same general beliefs and values. Task: Describe one belief you share. Response: I chose our belief in freedom from debt which our family is passionate about. It was top of mind since…
How do you end your night?
From this article, I gleaned the following idea: “3. End your night with a word of thanks or encouragement. This is the kind of simple habit that can make or break a lifelong relationship. Before you roll over and go to sleep, let your significant other know you accept and value him or her. You don’t…
Fondness and Admiration Challenge: Week 2, Day 1
Here we go! It’s week #2! Here is my next installment of the John Gottman Principle #2 Fondness and Admiration Challenge! Week 2, Day 1: Thought: I feel a genuine sense of “we” as opposed to “I” in this marriage. Task: Think of one thing that you both have in common. Response: I texted my…
Fondness and Admiration Challenge: Week 1, Day 5
Here is my fifth installment of the John Gottman Principle #2 Fondness and Admiration Challenge! This rounds out the first of seven weeks! Week 1, Day 5: Thought: My partner has specific qualities that make me proud. Task: Write down one characteristic that makes you proud. Response: I am proud of my wife’s strong convictions…
Fondness and Admiration Challenge: Week 1, Day 4
Here is my fourth installment of the John Gottman Principle #2 Fondness and Admiration Challenge! Week 1, Day 4: Thought: I am physically attracted to my partner. Task: Think of one physical attribute you like. Response: My wife has been on a weight loss diet kick since New Years. I noted how she is shrinking…
Fondness and Admiration Challenge: Week 1, Day 3
Here is my third installment of the John Gottman Principle #2 Fondness and Admiration Challenge! Week 1, Day 3: Thought: I can easily remember romantic, special times in our marriage. Task: Pick one such time and think about it. Response: I chose a night we spent on vacation years ago where we walked on a…
It’s a trap! (Part 2)
In a previous post I shared how certain tasks in a relationship can be challenging (traps). I also suggested a few tips for facing those challenges without offending your spouse whose Love Language is Words of Affirmation (WoA). Today I want to share another situation that can come up that is high stakes: special occasion…
Fondness and Admiration Challenge: Week 1, Day 2
Here is my second installment of the John Gottman Principle #2 Fondness and Admiration Challenge! Week 1, Day 2: Thought: I can easily speak of the good times in our marriage. Task: Pick one good time and write a sentence about it. Response: I chose our honeymoon. It’s our 20th Anniversary this year and we’re…