More wisdom from proverbs: I’ve found that being hot-tempered with my WoA spouse never pays off. Being patient and choosing words carefully, especially in times of stress or a quarrel, makes a big difference. Things said in anger are rarely what your WoA spouse needs to hear. Already screwed up and used harsh words in…
Fake it ‘till you make it?
It’s hard to make a habit of doing something you’ve not done before and are not internally motivated and programmed to do. Speaking your spouses love language can be HARD! Forming a habit around it can help. But what do you do until that habit is formed and affirming words are coming from the heart…
The Value of a Healing Tongue
Do you have a healing tongue or a deceitful tongue? Up until this year, I’ve had a deceitful tongue when speaking with my WoA wife. Fortunately, I had a wake up call and discovered the need to change. Although it hasn’t been easy, much healing has come from this experience. Where once I was crushing…
Are you wise?
Are you wise or the fool? I’d like to think that I use my Words of Affirmation with my spouse now which confirms and commends knowledge. Knowing really is half the battle! Sometimes I blow it and am most certainly the fool. I love the visual in this proverb of my mouth “gushing folly.” I…
Gentle Answers
I’ve come a long way in my journey to speak words of affirmation to my spouse. That said, there are still circumstances that test my resolve. One of those is backing up boat trailers. It brings out the worst in me. I will admit to being guilty of harsh words at many times in my…
Patience!
I have found that patience is key when you’re working on your relationship with a Words of Affirmation sensitive spouse. In Proverbs 14:29 it says: A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly. I don’t know how many times my non-affirming words come from a loss of patience or even an…
Are you quick-tempered?
When I’m angry, tired, or otherwise stressed, I can be “quick-tempered.” In those situations, sometimes words come out my mouth that I really don’t intend, haven’t thought about, and can consequently do damage to my WoA spouse. Proverbs 14:17a: A quick-tempered man does foolish things. It’s particularly important in those times of high emotion to…
Lips of the Wise
Are you using fool’s talk or lips of the wise when you’re interacting with your Words of Affirmation (WoA) spouse? Proverbs 14:3 says: A fool’s talk brings a rod to his back, but the lips of the wise protect them. Which would you say best characterizes the way you speak to your spouse? As I’ve…
Don’t speak rashly!
I am finding that there is so much wisdom in Proverbs for the person struggling to speak Words of Affirmation if that is your partner’s love language. Proverbs 13:3: “He who guards his lips guards his life, but he who speaks rashly will come to ruin.” In this verse, we’re reminded to be guarded and…
Oops (I did it again)…
Here’s a tip: If your Words of Affirmation (WoA) spouse is really good and supportive of you with their words in a particular area of life, be doubly sure to observe and reciprocate in those areas in their life. Today’s example… Last week I had some unfounded anxiety about an event I was going to attend. I…