Here are some low or no cost gift ideas for your partner whose love language is Words of Affirmation: https://www.bustle.com/p/6-gifts-to-give-a-partner-whose-love-language-is-words-of-affirmation-3212871 What are you getting your significant other this holiday season?
Words During Your Fights!
This article: https://www.popsugar.com/moms/Bad-Fight-Front-Your-Kids-45571806 brings up some classic points about the words spouse’s use during fights. In this context it’s in front of the kids but the same holds true without kids. Specifically for fighting with the spouse who has Words of Affirmation as their Love Language , words used during disagreements are very important! If…
Proverbs 31:28-29
Proverbs 31:28-29 Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” I read this as: 1) Recognize the blessing your spouse is in your marriage. 2) Praise them! And do it orally with words! 3) Go Big! Appreciate! Affirm!…
100 Small Nice Things
https://www.fatherly.com/love-money/100-small-nice-things-wife-marriage-love In thinking of a journal for words of affirmation ideas to use with your spouse, I came across this list. Some good wisdom in this list to try!
Love Language #1: What are “Words of Affirmation?”
If you’re like me, you need a refresher on your spouse’s love language rather frequently. I recently re-read Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages chapter on Words of Affirmation. Here are some notes: Verbally affirm your spouse Verbal compliments Words of appreciation Statements of affirmation Encouraging words Encourage means “to inspire courage.” Inspire them Kind…
An Idea – What do other people say?
From Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages: “If you are not a Words of Affirmation person and you discover that your spouse’s love language is Words of Affirmation, as I indicated in the book, you can make a list of statements that you hear from other persons or read in magazines or books. Stand in…
Proverbs 29:20
“Do you see a man who speaks in haste? There is more hope for a fool than for him.” I know I need this reminder sometimes. Words matter. Don’t speak in haste. Choose not to use critical words. Choose not to be closed off and use no words. Choose positive, encouraging words of affirmation!
An Idea – Look for Positive Things
In Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts chapter titled “Loving the Unlovely” is buried an interesting idea for the spouse struggling with using Words of Affirmation. “Look for positive things in Glenn’s life and give him verbal affirmation about those things.” Ok. Seems intuitive and easy enough, right? He…
An interesting perspective on criticism
With a spouse who’s Love Language is “Words of Affirmation,” criticism is basically the opposite. When criticized, my wife shuts down and subtracts any points I’ve earned for speaking words of affirmation to her. While reading Gary Chapman’s “The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts” again, I found an interesting perspective in…
Resource List
What is a love language? First, you should buy Gary Chapman’s book The 5 Love Languages. Check out the resources on 5lovelanguages.com Take a quiz to find out your love language: www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/ This is a great video overview: Watch it on YouTube. Here is another overview of the 5 love languages on YouTube What are words…