Oh boy, oh boy is this a big deal! Only one of these is an acceptable practice in a healthy relationship. With a Words of Affirmation (WoA) Love Language spouse, knowing when you’ve crossed the line into unhealthy territory is of great importance. Because words are so important, making sure you are within the bounds…
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New Years Resolutions
Happy New Year! A new year brings a fresh start and a clean slate for using Words of Affirmation (WoA) in your relationships. What’s on your New Years resolutions list? This year I am resolving to: Use fewer critical/negative words with my spouse. To use soft startups for complaints I may have. Use more “I…
It’s a trap!
Its a trap! Does your relationship have certain activities or topics that you recognize as traps that are sure to lead to arguments? Not too long ago, my wife and I realized that our marriage is full of them. Just identifying the trap as a couple can make navigating it easier. For a Words of…
Merry Christmas and I love you
Have you said this simple phrase to your Words of affirmation (WoA) loved one this holiday season? For the words-centric, this can mean the world to them. Just take a few minutes and see how they react! What other things have you said on special occasions that have gone over well with your WoA loved…
Ugly Holiday Blazer – a Cautionary Tale
Oops! I had a misstep this weekend that I need to share. Hopefully someone can benefit from my folly. Our family was running late for church. I was the last one to shower and I was in a hurry. I came around the corner to our master bedroom to get dressed and there was my…
Godly Marriage 101
If you’re not following this account on Instagram, you should! Lots of good encouragement for those of us seeking to improve our marriage!
Words During Your Fights!
This article: https://www.popsugar.com/moms/Bad-Fight-Front-Your-Kids-45571806 brings up some classic points about the words spouse’s use during fights. In this context it’s in front of the kids but the same holds true without kids. Specifically for fighting with the spouse who has Words of Affirmation as their Love Language , words used during disagreements are very important! If…
100 Small Nice Things
https://www.fatherly.com/love-money/100-small-nice-things-wife-marriage-love In thinking of a journal for words of affirmation ideas to use with your spouse, I came across this list. Some good wisdom in this list to try!
Love Language #1: What are “Words of Affirmation?”
If you’re like me, you need a refresher on your spouse’s love language rather frequently. I recently re-read Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages chapter on Words of Affirmation. Here are some notes: Verbally affirm your spouse Verbal compliments Words of appreciation Statements of affirmation Encouraging words Encourage means “to inspire courage.” Inspire them Kind…
An Idea – What do other people say?
From Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages: “If you are not a Words of Affirmation person and you discover that your spouse’s love language is Words of Affirmation, as I indicated in the book, you can make a list of statements that you hear from other persons or read in magazines or books. Stand in…