You may have heard this common phrase used, but for a spouse whose love language is Words of Affirmation (WoA), you may find that it’s very much untrue. This can be very frustrating for someone who does not speak (and is not receptive to) words of affirmation. You may find that after doing the dishes,…
Are you a blamer? (Watch this video) I am a blamer and I’ve come to learn it’s very much the opposite of speaking words of affirmation (WoA) to my spouse. Since watching this video by Brene Brown, the hilarity of the line “Damn you Steve” sticks with me as so ridiculous but exactly what I…
Today we’re going to talk about the “sandwich method”. A good description can be found here. It is often used in Toastmaster (public speaking) groups or corporate settings to provide constructive criticism, employee reviews, etc. This same technique can apply to your WoA speaking partner as well though! If you have some feedback to provide,…
Does this sound familiar? It did to me. But this is not how a Words of Affirmation love language person views the world. Words (talk) is everything to them. I got this wrong for 20 years but am now a recovering “talk is cheap” believer. I now understand that just as much as my love…
Being a good listener and being a good speaker of affirming words are closely linked (in my experience). Speaking the Words of Affirmation love language requires a keen ear to tune in to what your partner is saying, and craving. It also pays to be a good listener to the affirming words other people use…
It’s hard to make a habit of doing something you’ve not done before and are not internally motivated and programmed to do. Speaking your spouses love language can be HARD! Forming a habit around it can help. But what do you do until that habit is formed and affirming words are coming from the heart…
Here’s a tip: If your Words of Affirmation (WoA) spouse is really good and supportive of you with their words in a particular area of life, be doubly sure to observe and reciprocate in those areas in their life. Today’s example… Last week I had some unfounded anxiety about an event I was going to attend. I…
“The deepest principle of human nature is a craving to be appreciated.” William James, American psychologist and philosopher What are you doing today to appreciate (affirm) your Words of Affirmation partner?
What do you do for your Words of Affirmation (WoA) spouse on Valentine’s Day? The great news is that with someone with this love language, it doesn’t have to be expensive. Here are some ideas written by KRIZIA LIQUIDO in this blog post: 01. Tell the person what you appreciate about them in a letter, poem, or…
What if you could purchase an insurance policy against fights in your relationship? Are there activities or items that always lead to arguments? Are there certain things that need to be done in the course of life that bring out the worst in you or your partner? For me, loading up bikes to go on…
