Thank you John Gottman! This book is a good resource for strengthening your marriage whether you feel it’s on the rocks or not. In addition to sharing his “Four Horseman of the Apocalypse” (predictors of divorce), Gottman shares seven principles (with included exercises to work through with your spouse). His principle #2 is: “Nurture your…
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Complaint, criticism, or contempt?
Oh boy, oh boy is this a big deal! Only one of these is an acceptable practice in a healthy relationship. With a Words of Affirmation (WoA) Love Language spouse, knowing when you’ve crossed the line into unhealthy territory is of great importance. Because words are so important, making sure you are within the bounds…
An idea from Instagram
What accounts do you follow on social media to inspire you to be a better Words of Affirmation (WoA) spouse? This one has some great insights. This would be a great idea to try! Let me know how it goes in the comments!
Low or no cost gift ideas
Here are some low or no cost gift ideas for your partner whose love language is Words of Affirmation: https://www.bustle.com/p/6-gifts-to-give-a-partner-whose-love-language-is-words-of-affirmation-3212871 What are you getting your significant other this holiday season?
Words During Your Fights!
This article: https://www.popsugar.com/moms/Bad-Fight-Front-Your-Kids-45571806 brings up some classic points about the words spouse’s use during fights. In this context it’s in front of the kids but the same holds true without kids. Specifically for fighting with the spouse who has Words of Affirmation as their Love Language , words used during disagreements are very important! If…
100 Small Nice Things
https://www.fatherly.com/love-money/100-small-nice-things-wife-marriage-love In thinking of a journal for words of affirmation ideas to use with your spouse, I came across this list. Some good wisdom in this list to try!
Love Language #1: What are “Words of Affirmation?”
If you’re like me, you need a refresher on your spouse’s love language rather frequently. I recently re-read Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages chapter on Words of Affirmation. Here are some notes: Verbally affirm your spouse Verbal compliments Words of appreciation Statements of affirmation Encouraging words Encourage means “to inspire courage.” Inspire them Kind…
An interesting perspective on criticism
With a spouse who’s Love Language is “Words of Affirmation,” criticism is basically the opposite. When criticized, my wife shuts down and subtracts any points I’ve earned for speaking words of affirmation to her. While reading Gary Chapman’s “The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts” again, I found an interesting perspective in…
Resource List
What is a love language? First, you should buy Gary Chapman’s book The 5 Love Languages. Check out the resources on 5lovelanguages.com Take a quiz to find out your love language: www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/ This is a great video overview: Watch it on YouTube. Here is another overview of the 5 love languages on YouTube What are words…
Baby Steps
Educate Educate yourself. If you’ve found yourself here, congratulations, you’re already well on your way! Read up on your partner’s love language: Words of Affirmation. Know what it means, how it makes them feel loved, and why it’s important to speak it. Know your own love language and understand the difficulty in speaking in a…