Why haven’t you heard from me in a while? There are a number of reasons I haven’t posted in the last four months. 1) My Words of Affirmation (WoA) wife found out. Actually, I told her. I started this blog because when I realized I needed to speak words of affirmation to my wife, there…
Are you a blamer? (Watch this video) I am a blamer and I’ve come to learn it’s very much the opposite of speaking words of affirmation (WoA) to my spouse. Since watching this video by Brene Brown, the hilarity of the line “Damn you Steve” sticks with me as so ridiculous but exactly what I…
I’m my last post I shared a misstep story that got me into some hot water but in retrospect was something I didn’t need to say at all. Today, I’m reminded of the following proverb: The words I chose were certainly my undoing in yesterday’s story. But today I want to talk more about a…
I had some strife in my relationship this week. It was a typical scenario of bad habits that unfortunately plays out too frequently. I said something I shouldn’t have in a way I shouldn’t have. (Sound familiar?) As usual, my lips did bring strife to our marriage and my mouth invited a (probably deserved) beating…
Here’s a tip: If your Words of Affirmation (WoA) spouse is really good and supportive of you with their words in a particular area of life, be doubly sure to observe and reciprocate in those areas in their life. Today’s example… Last week I had some unfounded anxiety about an event I was going to attend. I…
I blew it again! Despite my best efforts for the last couple months, I blew it. On Valentines day no less! I had a long day. I had been up since 4am, worked all day, then prepared a special family Valentines meal. I was exhausted. I needed a rest. Right then is when my son…
“A soft answer turns away anger.” Dr. Gary Chapman explains further on this edition of A Love Language Minute. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/a-love-language-minute/id287679946?mt=2&i=1000429209257 Am I the only one guilty of this? Sometimes, despite my intentions, my tone does not match my words. In my head I feel I should get credit for using the affirming words but my spouse…
In the John Gottman book “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work,” he introduces the concept of “yielding to win.” He uses an example of a traffic jam to illustrate the point. He highlights two approaches to the situation: “One is to stop, become righteously indignant, and insist that the offending obstacle move.” “The other…
Dr. Gary Chapman says that a compliment is a far greater motivator than a nag in his latest 1minute podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/a-love-language-minute/id287679946?mt=2&i=1000428360129 I am super guilty of this. Instead of filling up my spouse’s tank with compliments (Words of Affirmation, y’all!), I can easily nag about things which is the exact opposite. The connection Dr. Chapman…
I didn’t start this website because I’m perfect and know all there is to know about relating to a Words of Affirmation (WoA) significant other. In fact, I started it because when I screwed up my relationship by not knowing how to speak WoA, I googled it and came up with very little to help.…
