Today we’re going to talk about the “sandwich method”. A good description can be found here. It is often used in Toastmaster (public speaking) groups or corporate settings to provide constructive criticism, employee reviews, etc. This same technique can apply to your WoA speaking partner as well though! If you have some feedback to provide,…
What do you do for your Words of Affirmation (WoA) spouse on Valentine’s Day? The great news is that with someone with this love language, it doesn’t have to be expensive. Here are some ideas written by KRIZIA LIQUIDO in this blog post: 01. Tell the person what you appreciate about them in a letter, poem, or…
Check out the latest Gary Chapman Love Language Minute: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/a-love-language-minute/id287679946?mt=2&i=1000428837426 This one hit me like a ton of bricks! My spouse has mentioned to me MANY times how much I nag and how opposite that is to her Words of Affirmation (WoA) love language. Dr. Chapman makes a differentiation between nagging and encouraging words. First,…
In the John Gottman book “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work,” he introduces the concept of “yielding to win.” He uses an example of a traffic jam to illustrate the point. He highlights two approaches to the situation: “One is to stop, become righteously indignant, and insist that the offending obstacle move.” “The other…
Dr. Gary Chapman says that a compliment is a far greater motivator than a nag in his latest 1minute podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/a-love-language-minute/id287679946?mt=2&i=1000428360129 I am super guilty of this. Instead of filling up my spouse’s tank with compliments (Words of Affirmation, y’all!), I can easily nag about things which is the exact opposite. The connection Dr. Chapman…
Can we do this with words of affirmation? In John Gottman‘s book, his chapter on Principle #3 (Turn toward each other instead of away), he has an exercise called the “Emotional Bank Account” where he suggests a ledger to keep track of your interactions with your spouse. He suggests making entries for deposits (when we…
I didn’t start this website because I’m perfect and know all there is to know about relating to a Words of Affirmation (WoA) significant other. In fact, I started it because when I screwed up my relationship by not knowing how to speak WoA, I googled it and came up with very little to help.…
From this article, I gleaned the following idea: “3. End your night with a word of thanks or encouragement. This is the kind of simple habit that can make or break a lifelong relationship. Before you roll over and go to sleep, let your significant other know you accept and value him or her. You don’t…
Thank you John Gottman! This book is a good resource for strengthening your marriage whether you feel it’s on the rocks or not. In addition to sharing his “Four Horseman of the Apocalypse” (predictors of divorce), Gottman shares seven principles (with included exercises to work through with your spouse). His principle #2 is: “Nurture your…
Happy New Year! A new year brings a fresh start and a clean slate for using Words of Affirmation (WoA) in your relationships. What’s on your New Years resolutions list? This year I am resolving to: Use fewer critical/negative words with my spouse. To use soft startups for complaints I may have. Use more “I…
