More wisdom from proverbs: I’ve found that being hot-tempered with my WoA spouse never pays off. Being patient and choosing words carefully, especially in times of stress or a quarrel, makes a big difference. Things said in anger are rarely what your WoA spouse needs to hear. Already screwed up and used harsh words in…
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The Value of a Healing Tongue
Do you have a healing tongue or a deceitful tongue? Up until this year, I’ve had a deceitful tongue when speaking with my WoA wife. Fortunately, I had a wake up call and discovered the need to change. Although it hasn’t been easy, much healing has come from this experience. Where once I was crushing…
Are you wise?
Are you wise or the fool? I’d like to think that I use my Words of Affirmation with my spouse now which confirms and commends knowledge. Knowing really is half the battle! Sometimes I blow it and am most certainly the fool. I love the visual in this proverb of my mouth “gushing folly.” I…
Gentle Answers
I’ve come a long way in my journey to speak words of affirmation to my spouse. That said, there are still circumstances that test my resolve. One of those is backing up boat trailers. It brings out the worst in me. I will admit to being guilty of harsh words at many times in my…
Patience!
I have found that patience is key when you’re working on your relationship with a Words of Affirmation sensitive spouse. In Proverbs 14:29 it says: A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly. I don’t know how many times my non-affirming words come from a loss of patience or even an…
Are you quick-tempered?
When I’m angry, tired, or otherwise stressed, I can be “quick-tempered.” In those situations, sometimes words come out my mouth that I really don’t intend, haven’t thought about, and can consequently do damage to my WoA spouse. Proverbs 14:17a: A quick-tempered man does foolish things. It’s particularly important in those times of high emotion to…
Lips of the Wise
Are you using fool’s talk or lips of the wise when you’re interacting with your Words of Affirmation (WoA) spouse? Proverbs 14:3 says: A fool’s talk brings a rod to his back, but the lips of the wise protect them. Which would you say best characterizes the way you speak to your spouse? As I’ve…
Don’t speak rashly!
I am finding that there is so much wisdom in Proverbs for the person struggling to speak Words of Affirmation if that is your partner’s love language. Proverbs 13:3: “He who guards his lips guards his life, but he who speaks rashly will come to ruin.” In this verse, we’re reminded to be guarded and…
A Kind Word
Proverbs 12:25 says: “An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up.” Have you asked your Words of Affirmation (WoA) spouse what is weighing them down? Finding out what they are feeling anxious about can help direct your words. Craft your Words of Affirmation around supporting them in the areas…
Proverbs 12:18
The opposite of words of affirmation are reckless words! Proverbs 12:18: “Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” Which type of words will you choose today? Will you choose to bring healing with affirming words or be reckless?