I’m my last post I shared a misstep story that got me into some hot water but in retrospect was something I didn’t need to say at all. Today, I’m reminded of the following proverb: The words I chose were certainly my undoing in yesterday’s story. But today I want to talk more about a…
I had some strife in my relationship this week. It was a typical scenario of bad habits that unfortunately plays out too frequently. I said something I shouldn’t have in a way I shouldn’t have. (Sound familiar?) As usual, my lips did bring strife to our marriage and my mouth invited a (probably deserved) beating…
This has been me in the darkest times in my relationship with my spouse. How do you interpret this proverb?
Anybody else need this wisdom today? I had an instance with my WoA spouse just this morning that I would have been best served to just keep my mouth shut.
This is a prayer I need sometimes. Set a guard over my mouth, O Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips. Psalm 141:3 Having a WoA spouse, I must be vigilant in what comes out of my mouth and the damage it can do. Sometimes, the imagery of setting a guard over your…
This is one I am 100% guilty of doing. Sometimes it starts with a legitimate complaint but it can easily escalate into criticism which then baits a fight. As usual, Proverbs has some wisdom for us: Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out. Proverbs 17:14…
Today we have more wisdom from Proverbs concerning the way we use our words: Arrogant lips are unsuited to a fool- Proverbs 17:7a Another translation says it this way: Excellent speech becomes not a fool. From Gill’s Exposition on the Bible: “Excellent speech becometh not a fool,…. A wicked man. Eloquence, or a sublime grand…
Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. Proverbs 16:24 Pleasant words to our WoA spouses do more than pay lip service to their preferred love language. They can actually provide nourishment to their soul and healing to their bodies. I’ve noticed that when I speak WoA into my…
I am the king of snide answers to questions my WoA spouse asks. Some are sarcastic and intended to be funny but some frequently go too far. Proverbs has some wisdom: The heart of the righteous weighs its answers, but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil. Proverbs 15:28 My takeaway from this is that…
I’ve found that some situations require a timely word. Rather than letting it stew, replying to the situation immediately is important. This is not easy for someone who doesn’t speak Words of Affirmation (WoA). What can you do to identify those key moments with your spouse and speak affirming words into them?
