Are you a blamer? (Watch this video)
I am a blamer and I’ve come to learn it’s very much the opposite of speaking words of affirmation (WoA) to my spouse.
Since watching this video by Brene Brown, the hilarity of the line “Damn you Steve” sticks with me as so ridiculous but exactly what I do in any number of situations.
Some key things I took away from this lesson:
- “Blame is simply the discharging of discomfort and pain.”
- It’s inverse to accountability (being vulnerable to your spouse).
- It’s how we “miss our opportunities for empathy.”
As a response to this learning, I’m going to keep “Damn you Steve” (complete with the laugh track) in my mind when I have a tendency to move to blame my WoA sensitive spouse.
Are you a blamer? How do you think it impacts your WoA spouse?