You may have heard this common phrase used, but for a spouse whose love language is Words of Affirmation (WoA), you may find that it’s very much untrue.
This can be very frustrating for someone who does not speak (and is not receptive to) words of affirmation. You may find that after doing the dishes, taking care of the kids, or giving your spouse a gift, they are still not fulfilled despite your actions.
Your WoA spouse needs your affirming words to fill up their “love tank” and no amount of action in other love languages (like acts of service, giving gifts, physical touch, or quality time) are a substitute for what they really crave.
How do you speak words of affirmation to your spouse? What actions have you tried that do NOT speak louder than words?